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2014-08-07 |
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There is no guarantee with the wisest of choices! -- and no automatic curse on making some of the 'wrongest' turns. |
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A moral myth that goes around on Facebook at times is that it is exclusively by our own choices that our lives are defined. I disagree!! This is somewhat of a presumptuous feeling either propagated by folks who feel they have 'succeeded' in life …. or by folks that feel the need of offering some kind of an apologetic explanation for their feeling of 'less than full success' . It is true that it is only by our own choices that we can self-determine and influence the development of the cards that life has dealt us. But there is no way to get around the fact that a number of quite fundamental forces outside our control also play a very major role in the determination of where life will lead us. To start with, the country, culture and lifestyle of the spot in this world we were born into gives us widely different development alternatives – none of us have the slightest determining power over this!. Home situations and family capacity for growing up are extremely different even for children brought up in the same part of the world and with the same culture or society. It is dishonest to suggest that this is not a very significant fact in the course that life may take. The forces of fate and chance in life are impossible to disregard --- Some of life's greatest resources are dealt out without understandable logic or reason … health and handicap … opportunity and timing, and the available resources or demands of folks around us or close to us, often are not up for choice in any kind of an equal way for all. The choice that we have is to do the best with what we have … or to squander it. But this doesn't always include the options for comparable success or failure. I have met people that even by their own description have made most of the most idiotic choices-- but developed fulfilling succesfull lives …. and folks that have done everything according to all the rules of society – and spent their lives in misery and unhappiness -
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